Meditative Diaries

TO LIVE IS TO DIE

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To do something for the joy of it

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People (including the writer) are used to do something driven by the desire to achieve an upper goal.. its very rare that someone does something for the joy of it, with no motives hidden behind that. This is a habitual approach to life for most of us, is it not?

People have yoga in order to achieve an attractive figure instead of having yoga because they enjoy this delicate art. They approach other people in order for socialization, for avoiding the sense of loneliness, instead of just approaching people for the joy of relating. They try to give love in order to receive love. They play soccer or tennis in order to win the game and confirm their superiority or in order to improve their physical condition. They meditate so as to achieve extraordinary experiences. People go to work in order to make money. They even have sex because its appropriate to have sex at least twice per week or once per month, or in order to confirm their relationship is still healthy instead of having sex just because there is so much beauty and joy and pleasure in that.

If we look at this phenomenon more carefully we would probably notice its possible that one plays soccer because one enjoys soccer.. or that one meditates for the joy of meditating. Or that one goes for a walk because it is justnice.. yet the Ego won’t lose the opportunity to poison this spontaneous action. The Ego will attach on that action and translate the whole movement in its own terms. So probably I enjoy yoga but once I start having yoga the Ego will create concepts like “oh this is a good method to improve my body, to make it attractive which will soothe my insecurities”.. and it won’t stop here.. it will also create extra concepts like “so I will include a two-times 50-minute yoga sessions in my weekly schedule” or “and I think this work out is really sophisticated, its also rather spiritual, this will give me a sense of superiority”. This way the Ego creates a distorted perception that everything we do should have a upper motive. And we accept this as the only normal approach to life.

The question is, once there is always a hidden motive, an upper goal behind every action is it possible to be carefree and happy? Or if there is a motive we necessarily invite fear and agony in our lives? The fear and agony that probably we won’t achieve this goal.

It seems this pure quality of spontaneous action is possible. It seems its possible to do something just because we enjoy it, like children that just want to play. People seem to have this capacity. Yet people tend to destroy this spontaneous action by creating concepts that relate to seeking pleasure/safety and avoiding pain. All this is a fact, not an imagination of the writer.

And then comes a distorted question like “how am I to negate all such motives”? There is not a safe technique, a safe path to live spontaneously. It seems the right question a serious man should ask is “is it possible to lead a life that is not based in motive” and find on one’s own.

Is grief for the loss of a closed one an action of love or its just self pity?

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A few months ago the writer had an insight on death.. actually it was an insight on living and dying. The writer found that to live is to die. Today, after an incident that happened, I would like to delve into this intense pain and grieving that is following the death of a beloved one. There is a common belief that we grieve for the one we used to love and is now dead. We will show this is not the case, that this grieving has nothing to do with love! Continue reading →

The Story of the Blacknailed Hand

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A new blacknailed hand was born and there was joy. The hand had no worries. It was playing all the time, laughing, running up and down, enjoying its time with its friends. Someday it noticed two other hands were looking weirdly at its black nail. The hand was surprised but it decided to pay no extra attention and it continued playing carelessly. A few years later it came that night of the huge protest of the non blacknailed hands against the inferior blacknailed hands. This made our blacknailed hand worry more. A feeling of guilt was planted in its heart. Our formerly happy hand was now in confusion, anxious, in a constant struggle to hide its black nail. Even its parents weren’t approving of his black nail, while newspapers were publishing dozens of articles that were justifying scientifically the inferiority and abnormality of black nailed hands. Continue reading →

The source loves to play

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I enjoy to speak with many guys and girls. One of them is my dear Chan Chan (aka double C). Chan Chan wrote the other day something that had a direct impact inside:

“A child covers his face with his hands, and says “I’m hiding, come and find me”, even though the other who is to find him, is there, in the same room. To the child, when it no longer sees anything, nothing else exists. It can not see the body, and perhaps at a young age can not fully imagine it either. When he closes his eyes, the world disappears and so does he. Continue reading →

Is Psychotherapy capable to Heal?

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In the previous diary i investigated whether Time is capable of healing psychological hurt. The following discussion was quite interesting. Many people insisted that some manifestations of Time may heal. So others said people need to do intellectual work with themselves, others claimed that Analysis of the experience of the hurt may heal, others said that gradual forgotting of the hurt (by means of time) could cure and also many supported the idea that psychotherapy is the solution. We delved deeply in this last issue: Whether Psychotherapy is capable to heal! Continue reading →

Does Time really heal wounds?

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There is a common belief that Time is a wound healer. For many many years this was the mechanism i was using to face psychological wound.  We’ve previously found here that beliefs, opinions have very limited meaning and they have nothing to do with Truth. So let’s find if there is any truth in this statement.. is Time a wound healer? Notice that we refer to Psychological wound/hurt. Continue reading →

Is it possible that a relationship is always anew?

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People have accepted that all relationships flower for a little period where there is excitement, pleasure, mutual interest, fun, joy, care, tenderness, sexual or not sexual passion and then boredom arises. Or they struggle in order to keep the relationship exciting, by seeking new pleasures, new habits, new experiences. So they plan a trip every now and then in order to renew a relationship, they buy a new house or a new fancy car. Continue reading →