There is a common belief that Time is a wound healer. For many many years this was the mechanism i was using to face psychological wound. We’ve previously found here that beliefs, opinions have very limited meaning and they have nothing to do with Truth. So let’s find if there is any truth in this statement.. is Time a wound healer? Notice that we refer to Psychological wound/hurt.
How a psychological hurt takes place? Is the psychologcal hurt separate from time? Is there any hurt if Time is absent? I am sexual partner of a woman for many years, and during this time, a strong sense of relative security, attachment, possesion is built. Then we break up and this sense is destroyed. There is insecurity, fear, a lack of purpose, a sense of vanity. All these is psychological hurt, a very painful emotion. Would this hurt happen at all if time in the sense of memories, habits, ideals, images was absent(in other words, if time is not affecting psychologically)? The answer is obviously No.
So Time is breeding hurt, is the core of hurt. Can at the same moment Time heal hurt? Is it possible? People believe Time heals by means of forgetting. Is forgetting even possible? Or what actually happens is a gradual hiding of pain/hurt/insecurity in deeper layers of consciousness, these layers that scientists and psychologists call “unconscious” which it seems that its not separate from the rest of consciousness. Thus hurt seems to be less painful, consciously. And then comes this feeling of forgetting. But if one is more serious, more observative one will discover that hurt still acts from this hidden place dangerously, deviously bringing unexplainable pain, sorrow. It seems this is the continuously increasing sorrow of mankind. Its the sorrow that appears when someone is not occupying one’s mind with several pleasant or not pleasant escapes (habits, gossip, mechanical jobs etc). This sorrow also brings depression, confusion and it seems this is one of the fearest troubles of mankind.
So Time can only continue psychological hurt, its not possible to heal it. Then what? What am i to do in order to get rid of this acute psychological pain? To be sincere, i don’t know. But i know that I shouldn’t escape in an effort to forget the hurt in a matter of Time. So i quit all intellectual efforts to forget, I am not intersted in stop thinking this that brings pain by escaping in several pleasant habits, by occupying my mind in order to avoid the thoughts of hurt. So i just remain silent, still and I just observe. And then i find that to observe with no words, non judgement, no choice, will reveal the fake nature of the psychological hurt. And then the hurt is not. But we should cease talking theoritically. Don’t accept what the writer says, try it, dig your teeth to it, find on your own!