In the previous diary i investigated whether Time is capable of healing psychological hurt. The following discussion was quite interesting. Many people insisted that some manifestations of Time may heal. So others said people need to do intellectual work with themselves, others claimed that Analysis of the experience of the hurt may heal, others said that gradual forgotting of the hurt (by means of time) could cure and also many supported the idea that psychotherapy is the solution. We delved deeply in this last issue: Whether Psychotherapy is capable to heal!
First we need to find how is healing possible. There is a psychological hurt. Someone abandons me, or someone insults me and says that i am lazy. Then there is loneliness (due to abandonment) or destruction of an image I carry (like “I am not a lazy man”). Actually also the sense of loneliness following abandoment causes pain due to the destruction of another image, the image that “i need to be in a relationship with someone in order to be ok”. So the hurt happens when an image is broken. This is necessarily the movement of hurt. Now actually seeing the artificial nature of Images, that images are just a funny (or rather weird) trick, a creation of the mind, the hurt instantly dissolves because there is direct understanding that its fake/artificial. This is not an idea of the writer, you need to try it and see what happens. So in order to heal pain/hurt you need to look inside and see these strange mind games. How is it possible that someone looks inside? I’ve found that a walk in the city or in the forest, the seeing of a cloud, the reading of a book, the sound of the wind, all these, may act as very clear mirror in order to reflect ourselves.. the very seeing of this reflection is instant healing of scars, hurts. A relationship may also act as a mirror. A distorted relationship will act as a distorted mirror that creates distorted perception which is actually new images. An actual, healthy relationship, on the contrary, may act as a crystal clear mirror which does heal because it gives the opportunity to see clearly inside.
So a relationship may act as a self healing entity. And what is an actual Relationship? It seems such relationship is possible only if images are completely absent (or else the images do relate, no the actual persons). The absence of Images means the absence of Time and if all these do cease then its Love. It seems that True Relationship is Love. So for a relationship to be able to heal Love is necessary. Or else this relationship is not capable of healing. And here comes the initial question.. Is Psychotherapy capable to heal? Once there is a Psychotherapist and a Patient, a master and a follower, a guru and a disciple, which are all images, is it possible that such relationship will ever heal anybody? Is there this genuine interest once there is a goal like healing the patient? Is healing a matter of academic knowledge, of a specific method like psychoanalysis or the dozens of other psychotherapeutic methods? Methods, academic knowledge , goals, labels/images are Time. Once time is, Love is not and healing is not possible.
Only if there is genuine interest, care, tenderness, love its possible that a relationship acts therapeutically. And in such relationship there is neither a healer and a patient nor a goal of healing yet healing happens naturally and mutually. Here its not implied that a psychologist or psychotherapist isn’t capable of healing.. yet they have to negate the very heavy conditioning that is cultivated by means of their education, scientific knowledge, actually they have to end this image of Psychologist or Psychotherapist.