Since my previous diary on violence i am seriously investigating this huge issue of Violence. And then came a new dialogue on Violence in our Facebook Group to give more interesting perceptions! It seems that things are not at all as they are traditionally perceived! It seems that there is not a victim separated from the victimizer. We deal with psychological violence here, lets make that clear.
So there is someone that is violently insults me. This man says “you are such a lazy guy, this is unacceptable”. The very next moment seems to be very crucial because it decides whether at all there is a victimizer and a victim, it decides if violence ceases or not.. if i am caught in time, if i am not present, aware, its necessary that hurt will happen after the violent insult. What is the mechanism of hurt? Isn’t it that I’ve built some images about me, images like “i am not lazy” and i’ve invested much energy in them, thus i think its important to keep them safe, valid? So once someone violently undermines/attacks this image there is inevitably hurt/pain and out of this hurt there is a violent reaction.. its the moment that the victim becomes a victimizer returning violence back to the initial victimizer that is transformed to victim.. so the question is “is the victim separate from the victimizer?” And another question is “is this vicious circle of violence possible to cease”?
Now let’s go back to that crucial moment.. what happens if i am extraordinarily alive and see the hurt that rises? The seeing of the hurt (which as we explained above IS essentialy Violence) reveals all its meaning exactly like the seeing of a tree reveals all the beauty, the shadows, the colors, the flowers. If i am extraordinarily present, alive, aware, I clearly see the whole movement of violence/insult-hurt-payback. The futility of this circle as well as fictitious character of my broken image that brings about pain is revealed and my alert, alive, sensitive mind is no interested in futility or fictictious entities. This seeing seems to drain the energy of the circle of violencee and there is not enough energy to payback. Thus the circle of violence breaks. So once i am not vulnerable to hurt, to insult, i am not a victim! And thus the victimizer is not a victimizer!
PS: It’s even possible that the seeing of the rising violence happens in a very primordial. non verbal state, when there is nothing more than just a sense! The very seeing of it is vast beauty, immense aliveness!