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When Slapping a Refugee brings about an insight on Violence

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Are you aware of the huge wave of refugees from Pakistan, Syria etc that are trying to escape to Europe with a stopover in Greece (and many unlucky victims that are drowned everyday)? Recently an incident took place in Kos Island. A policeman slapped and used a knife to threaten a Pakistani refugee. This brought about huge outcry (by anti-racists) against the racistic behavior of the policeman and this caused a new reaction from racists who feel we are in danger because of the refugees. They remind of the raping of a young girl called Myrto by another Pakistani refugee and they somehow equate these two incidents.. What is hidden behind this chain of reactions? What is the core of this mess? Isn’t it what we call violence?

In nature there is violence.. a lion kills a deer in order to eat. This violence is necessary and its essentially.. life. We are not talking about this kind of violence here.. we are talking of a totally not necessary violence, which we could call “psychological violence”. This kind of violence doesn’t appear only in racists.. it’s practically evident in all human beings. And what is the root of this violence? It seems like the illusion that we are separated, that we are different with each other is the core of such violence. We’ve spoken about the Unity of the whole universe right here (nothing is divided and there is nothing to unite), but it seems humans can’t perceive the truth of that. Instead we’ve created this imaginary Ego which says “I am separated from everybody else, I have my personal interests that are in conflict with others best interest”. The necessary outcome of this illusion is this psychological violence against everything we feel its different from us.

So once i am a heterosexual i breed violence against homosexuals, once i am an anarchist my violence focuses on racists.. once i believe philosophy will give an effective solution to the human problems I snob (yes, this is again violence) all those that ignore the importance of philosophy. Am I a cool guy? I attack people with neurotic, stressful behaviors. My girlfriend is jealous, i revolt, i try to make her non jealous. All these are violence. Do we see it? It seems there are not different qualities of psychological violence, there is just Violence and it doesn’t make sense to justify some forms of violence while condemning others. We see how silly it is to react against the cruel racists? This reaction is essentially the same violence of the racists (even if we don’t physically act violently) which perpetuates division, conflict, pain and war.


Psychological violence is not as obvious as the violence of a lion against the deer. It’s much more discreet, much more sophisticated! It doesn’t start or end with a physical expression of violence.. most of the times this physical action (to hit, to threaten, to slap, to kill) is only the tip of the iceberg. It seems like it appears in every aspect of our life though sometimes we don’t even realize we are acting violently. Sometimes we identify it with acts of compassion, charity, judgement, friendship or advice. So we judge our friend for being lazy with the excuse of our motive to make him a better man, while at the same moment there is a deeper satisfaction coming from this criticism, a feeling we are better – which is actual violence, isn’t it? Psychological violence is such a cunning movement and it demands huge passion to be alert every moment in order to perceive it.

How to deal with this violence?

This is an obvious question, provided we don’t ask for a technique, a method in order to get rid of it.. we are investigating together, we ask ourselves, we are exploring the question “can we lead an essentially non violent life”? Not to suppress violence (which is another form of -inner- violence), not to justify it and continue living a violent life with the excuse that violence is inevitable, necessary, natural. We deny all these intellectual approaches to violence because we profoundly see they are a continuation of violence, chaos and conflict.

So what is left? Once we don’t intellectually/consciously react against violence, once there is no justification, suppression, analysis, verbal explanations, we necessarily stay still, we don’t move. See what happens then! We just exist, with all our senses alive. Only then it’s possible to actually see, observe violence. Only then we see We are Violence , violence is not something separate from us, something we can cut out. So we discover there is nothing we can do. And this is the moment when conflict, inner division, actually ceases. We don’t fight anymore, we don’t struggle to reach the ideal of non violence. And then violence reveals its whole nature. And then violence is not.

This is the fine art of meditation.

Update: A girl called “Journey” revealed a new dimension in this issue i had never thought before! Journey said: “the man who is subjecto to violence isn’t different at all to the one who delivers violence. If we think it better, the reasons that lie behind acting violently and being subject to violence are common. Probably the man that suffers from violence necessarily delivers violence“! Journey was essentialy implying here that it’s possible to be non vulnerable to violence and once this happens i am not able to deliver violence at all.

Update vol.2: Here is my new insight, which i think is a bit more penetrating:

.. it seems like the very moment someone delivers violence to me, if i carry this illusion of separation/division (if i have images of what i  am or what i am not, and what the others are)  I am necessary Violence. Now if there is a gap, some space for perception, awareness to take place, the image dissolves, violence evaporates and the chain of violent reactions stops.

In the case of an individual (which i think actually means that someone is not divisible),  that doesn’t carry this illusion of separation, it seems that any kind of violence can’t touch him/her.. such violence dissolves somewhere in the universe



Jorge Kapa

The speaker is never important but you may examine the message, if you wish


  1. I am not a victim of the world I see. -ACIM

    Violence is a delusion based on a sense of separation according to A Course in Miracles, dovetailing with what Journey said. Only when you feel defensive are you attacked. Otherwise, you see only cries for love.

    • Would you say, nonzero, that Violence takes place the moment you are vulnerable to it, as a sense of separation? which means the very moment one delivers violence to you, if you have a few images (which is actually separation), you are essentially violence??

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