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What am “I” without my problems?

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Michael, an FB friend, opened the issue of why people find it necessary to maintain at least a good deal of problems during their life course and we had some really interesting findings. This is a really important question to ask if someone  is serious at all.

So what is the connection between the Self, the “I” and the Problems? It seems like the Self creates problems and problems breed the self. We could say that all psychological problems we are facing are actually an important content/part of what we call the Self. Continue reading →

Violence: Is the victim separate from the victimizer?

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Since my previous diary on violence i am seriously investigating this huge issue of Violence. And then came a new dialogue on Violence in our Facebook Group to give more interesting perceptions! It seems that things are not at all as they are traditionally perceived! It seems that there is not a victim separated from the victimizer. We deal with psychological violence here, lets make that clear.

So there is someone that is violently insults me. This man says “you are such a lazy guy, this is unacceptable”. Continue reading →

What it is to relate?

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Is relationship among the most important things in life? Part of “to live” is “to relate”, right? But what exactly is a relationship? Is it crystal clear? Is relationship a movement of verbal or non verbal communication, body touch, interest, sharing, cooperation, companionship and affection? And what is the role of Time in a relationship? Time as the past, as experience, as the images we  have for each other.. Continue reading →

What Lies behind our Urge for Rules?

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So the day before yesterday i had a dialogue about the necessity of regulations and much discussion took place which i think brought us deeper. These discussions made it a bit clear that most people think that at least a minimum of regulations is necessary or chaos would happen. Next question is why do we think this is necessary? What is the root of this urge for some rules? Continue reading →

Is freedom of choice actual freedom?

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There is too much speculation here in Greece regarding the issue of refugees..  It is speculated that Greece will be forced to choose between expelling from Schengen Treaty and building a huge camp of refugees in Greece. So if this question is asked and an answer is demanded, how do we respond? The discussion that followed this question showed something really important. It revealed the destructive effect of choice. It showed how choosing is, contrary to what is generally believed, a factor of enslaving rather than an expression of freedom. Continue reading →

Is absolute psychological safety possible?

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People urge for safety. There is a necessity for physical safety.. we need a safe place to live, well sheltered from cold, animals, or brutal people. We also need some food and water. This does make sense, no? There is also a need for psychological safety. What is psychological safety? It’s not quite obvious. Many people confuse psychological with physical safety. It seems that psychological safety refers to the future, psychological safety involves time. Continue reading →

Is love a matter of giving and taking?

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So one relates with another and either one demands absolutely nothing or there is a rather discrete or much more obvious expectation from the other part of the relationship. Actually i don’t see how its possible for a deeply conditioned mind – a man that lives in this obviously sick society with parents that project their desires to their children, with a profoundly brutal educational system which enslaves students – to create no expectations at all. Continue reading →

Is an exclusive relationship an actual one?

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A few days ago there was a discussion about the exclusivity/possession in human relationship. Yesterday there was another discussion with a friend that related with a married man. Two people, friends or erotic partners, relate.. what is commonly considered as a healthy relationship is a relationship that implies possession and a sense of exclusivity, attachment.. you are MY friend and you should care for me, you should satisfy my expectations, you shouldn’t put anyone else above me, i should be your first priority.. and i will try to offer you exactly the same... in the case of two erotic partners, there is demand for absolute exclusivity, while in the case of friends we could say there is demand  for relative exclusivity (this term sounds a bit contradictory but i guess its clear what is implied with that). Continue reading →